Guidelines for YMI Members

If you have the opportunity to work together with an experienced mediator or mediation advocate, these tips, tricks and guidelines from YMI Mediators can help you to get the most of the mentorship!

  • Arrange a regular meeting or Skype call with your Mentor, to talk about mediation matters and to share experiences, knowledge and useful resources.
  • Know your Mentor’s background and mediation practice areas, so that you might learn from and gain new understanding from their perspective.
  • Your Mentor is probably a busy Mediator/Mediation Advocate! Offer your help with reports, meeting summaries, research and other paperwork, in exchange for their guidance. It can save the workload of the mediator, expand your knowledge and will show that you are motivated!

If you have the opportunity to attend a mediation with your Mentor:

  • Having a YMI mediator/advocate attend a mediation costs time for the mediator/mediation advocate. There is a lot to explain and appointments need to be scheduled with an extra person. So make sure your approach is open and flexible. You should be the one with the ‘easiest’ agenda.
  • Take an active approach to the mediation. You are there to learn and to analyze, but also to reflect with the mentor. Ask as much as you can before and after the mediation. Why this approach? What went wrong? Which difficulties were there to face? etc.
  • Make yourself useful! Offer your assistance with note-taking, flip-charting and logistical tasks.
  • Ask your mentor if it’s possible to spend some time together, before and after the mediation, to evaluate everything.

If a mentor is not available in your area, you may have the opportunity to connect with a Mentor in another region or country! Here are some tips for getting the most out of a long distance mentorship:

  • Make the most of Skype, Facetime, email and other tools to bridge the distance between you and your Mentor. It is amazing how much can be achieved between different areas of the globe!
  • Take time to research the history and development of Mediation in your Mentor’s country, so that you have an understanding of the environment in which they practice.
  • If you are mediating, Skype with your Mentor before and after sessions to discuss and debrief aspects of the mediation. Taking care not to breach confidentiality:
    • Describe each situation and your personal impressions, thoughts and fears.
    • Take time to jointly understand the positions and interests of all participants.
    • Discuss what should be the best way to proceed, what questions to ask and what information you need to find out.
    • After the mediation, review what you could have done differently.
  • Be open to new ideas and approaches and make the most of this opportunity!